Her Quiet Becoming

  🌿 “Pain can echo across generations, but so can healing. Choosing to end the cycle is the quiet revolution that sets you—and those who follow—free. ” Growing up in a hostile environment can feel like being trapped in a script you didn’t write. You may hear the exact harsh words your parents once heard, carry the same unspoken fears, or find yourself drawn into the same unhealthy relationships. But recognizing these patterns is the first step to breaking free. It begins with awareness. Pause and ask yourself: “Where did I learn this behaviour? Is it really mine, or did I inherit it?” Naming the cycle takes away its hidden power. Once you see it clearly, you can begin to choose differently. Take Aisha’s story as an example. She grew up in a home where anger was the only language. For years, she repeated the same outbursts with friends and partners, believing it was normal. But when she realized she was carrying someone else’s pattern, she made a decision: This ends with me. She ...

  🌼 “Self-love isn’t about perfection—it’s about meeting yourself with compassion on the days when worth feels hardest to believe.” When love feels absent in childhood, it can leave a deep ache. You may find yourself questioning your worth, wondering why you weren’t enough to be cherished. These feelings are real, but they are not the truth of who you are. Love withheld from you says more about those who could not give it than about your value as a person. The first step toward self-love is recognizing that you are worthy simply because you exist. Your worth is not earned—it is inherent. Even if the people who raised you failed to affirm that truth, you can learn to establish it for yourself now. Start by speaking gentle words to yourself each morning: “I am worthy of love. I am enough as I am.” These words may feel strange at first, but with time, they will begin to settle in your heart. Consider Mariam, a young woman who grew up in a household filled with harsh words and litt...