Her Quiet Becoming

Change can feel like losing ground, but often it’s the very thing that sets us free. What if the unknown wasn’t something to fear, but an invitation to begin again?  Change is one of the few constants in life, yet it is often the one thing we resist the most. We cling to what is familiar because it feels safe, even when it no longer serves us. The unknown feels intimidating, and stepping into it can make us question our strength. But the truth is, change is not our enemy. It is a companion on the journey of becoming, and when we learn to embrace it, we discover that it is often the very path that leads us to freedom. Freedom comes when we release what is holding us back. Sometimes that means leaving behind routines, environments, or even mindsets that keep us small. Change breaks open the walls we’ve built around ourselves, forcing us to see new possibilities. While it may feel uncomfortable at first, it is often the discomfort of change that shapes us into stronger, more courageo...

  🌙 “Letting go of past versions of yourself is its own kind of grief. But in the mourning comes space for who you’re becoming.” There’s a quiet grief that accompanies growth. It’s not loud. It doesn’t always show up in obvious ways. But it lingers in the in-between moments, in the soft sighs, and in the space between who you were and who you're becoming. It’s the ache of letting go of the woman you used to be. The one who kept herself small to avoid conflict. Who silenced her voice to feel accepted. She overextended herself, hoping to finally feel worthy. You may not always recognize it as grief. But it’s there. In the heaviness that comes with unexpected tears. In the tug of nostalgia for a version of you that no longer fits. In the bittersweet pride of becoming stronger and realizing what it cost to get here.  The truth is: she was doing the best she could. She carried burdens quietly. She gave more than she had. She stayed in spaces that no longer served her,...

.   🌸 “Changing your mind isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom. It means you’ve grown, learned, and given yourself permission to evolve.” You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to grow out of something you once believed in, once wanted, once even prayed for with all your heart. There is nothing flaky or unreliable about that. In fact, the ability to shift, to reassess, and to move forward in a new direction is a sign of maturity — not failure. Changing your mind doesn’t mean you’re confused. It means you’re listening more deeply. It means you’re being honest with yourself, maybe for the first time in a long while. It means you’ve paused to ask: “Is this still aligned with who I’m becoming?” Sometimes we stay in relationships, routines, roles, or beliefs long past their expiration date, not because they still fit, but because we’re afraid to let go. Afraid of being judged. Afraid of disappointing others. Afraid of being seen as inconsistent. Afraid of starting over. ...