The Gift of Authenticity

 There are moments in life when, without realizing it, we begin to wear masks — not the kind that cover our faces, but the ones that cover our souls.

We become what is expected. We blend in. We adjust.

Not because we lack courage, but because life teaches us to survive first, not to thrive.

For years, this was my story.

Becoming What Was Expected

As a young woman, I was raised to be obedient and to do what was right in the eyes of my family and faith. I carried a heart that yearned to please my parents, elders, church, and society.

When I married my husband, I entered that union still wearing this invisible mask.

I didn’t fully know who I was. I only knew how to be what others needed.

In my mind, a good wife must be what her husband desires. A good woman must fit the mould.

And so, unknowingly, I gave myself away — little by little.

The Gift Hidden in Love

But God, in His quiet wisdom, planted me beside a man who would not exploit this.

Instead, my husband became a mirror, gently reflecting back to me the parts of myself I had hidden.

He asked questions. He encouraged my voice. He let me say “no.”

And slowly, in the safety of this love, I began to hear another voice — my own.

At first, it was strange.
Could I truly express my desires?
Could I choose for myself?
Could I say what I wanted without fear?

Each small yes became a seed of becoming.

Unlearning, Relearning

I had to unlearn the belief that my worth was measured by compliance.
I had to relearn that obedience to God is not the silence of the soul.

True partnership — in marriage and in life — honours the individuality God placed within each of us.

My becoming was not rebellion. It was a restoration.

Through my husband’s patience and God’s grace, I came to embrace this truth:

👉 I am allowed to be fully myself.
👉 I am allowed to grow, evolve, and dream.
👉 I am allowed to carry my own light into the world.

For Every Woman Reading

Perhaps you, too, have worn a mask — shaped by culture, by family, by the unspoken rules around you.

I want to gently tell you this:

👉 You are not required to erase yourself to be good.
👉 You are not disqualified if you’ve lost parts of yourself along the way.
👉 Becoming your authentic self is not selfish — it is sacred.

And if someone in your life — a partner, a friend, a mentor — encourages this becoming, give thanks.
But even if no one does, trust that God Himself honours your journey toward wholeness.

We Become, Together

Her Quiet Becoming is not about loud declarations. It is about subtle shifts, sacred steps.

If you take even one step toward your true self today, that is holy ground.

I am still becoming.
You are still becoming.
May we walk this path with courage and grace, together.